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12 January 2017 @ 04:13 pm
So much for positivity  
Twelve days into 2017 and already we're having financial woes.

After my brother's divorce, he had nowhere to go, so he moved in with us (me and my parents). My parents don't work because both are going for disability, so it's my brother and I paying the bills. My brother wants to move into a bigger place, so we do a rent to own for this trailer. My brother's plan is to pay off the trailer in 5 years, and then get his own place again. Less than a year after we move in, however, he gets back together with a former girlfriend. He starts spending entire weeks at her place, and eventually moves in. He starts complaining about having to help pay our bills, which was the plan all along. His plan. He chose the trailer, his name is on the paperwork (along with mine), etc.

His girlfriend is pregnant, so he's informed us that he can't help with the bills anymore. He's said this thing before - "we want to get our own apartment, so I can't help with the bills" - but nothing ever comes of it. She's been pregnant a couple times before too, but miscarried very early both times.

So we've started discussing what we're cutting. Cable and internet first, of course. I'll have to cut half the phone bills - mine and my mother's will remain for communication. I have unlimited data, so I can use that for internet use - at least at first. If it becomes too much, I'll have to cut down to the minimum amount of data available. I'll have to cut my $10 dropbox payments. I'm hoping I can at least keep Netflix so my parents have something to watch. My dad is talking about dropping his efforts to get disability and go back to work, which sounds like a good idea, but he has COPD, and watching his lips turn blue because he can't breathe just one time was more than enough for me. I'd like to avoid that again.

I'm not too concerned just yet, because they have months before the baby will be born. We have time to save up a bit, if we are very careful. It's tax season and I'll just hold onto that money. Meanwhile, my mother is freaking out, which is upsetting me. I have a persistent cough and a headache. I'm tired of struggling.

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danceswithgarydanceswithgary on January 12th, 2017 09:31 pm (UTC)
popkin16: ♦ no ships like partnershipspopkin16 on January 12th, 2017 09:32 pm (UTC)

Thank you, bb. Just needed to get it off my chest~
ride_4ever (or Ride_Forever: seen it both ways): Geoffrey Tennant time for a hugride_4ever on January 12th, 2017 09:42 pm (UTC)
Because you could use more than one: *hug*
popkin16: ♪ catch me if ever I fallpopkin16 on January 12th, 2017 09:44 pm (UTC)
*hugs back gratefully*
aka_niffer on January 12th, 2017 10:34 pm (UTC)
I am so very sorry. I hate to hear this and I hate even more that there is nothing I can do to help.

I'll add my *HUG* to the pile
melagan: John's rimming territorymelagan on January 12th, 2017 11:55 pm (UTC)
Well, crap.

Stupid magic wand isn't working or I could fix all this.

The best I can do is using this icon for a moment of happy distraction.
aivixaivix on January 13th, 2017 12:19 am (UTC)
:( *hugs for you*
timespirt on January 13th, 2017 05:13 am (UTC)
"HUGS" wish I could do something but I'm in the same boat as you. "HUGS" again because it's all I have to give. :-(
Selenic76: DeanBobbyHugselenic76 on January 13th, 2017 07:50 am (UTC)
*hugs you so tight* damn, life can be a bitch sometimes, I'm so sorry things are so tough for you :( If you ever need a bit of extra just let me know, and don't be shy about it. I can always spare a little because I don't spend that much, and I have a boyfriend who works and who would so support me in this. We know we're pretty fortunate to be doing as well as we are, so we want to help others if we can. You've been through so much it's now wonder you're tired of struggling. You are so amazing and so strong to keep going, but please take care of yourself too. You are precious to us *hugs you again*
brumeier: SGA Meant To Bebrumeier on January 13th, 2017 02:03 pm (UTC)
::all the hugs::

::plus more hugs::

I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this again. I wish I could help you out. I wish you didn't have to go through this struggle. I wish, I wish, I wish!

::more hugs::
Amy Cooperamycooper on January 14th, 2017 12:59 am (UTC)

Oh, I am so sorry you are struggling like this.

sgamadisonsgamadison on January 14th, 2017 01:56 am (UTC)
This sucks so much. I know you're doing your best to hang in there, but your brother is being incredibly selfish right now. That doesn't change the fact you have to tighten a belt that's already on the last hole.

I'm sorting my thoughts on how to keep you entertained if you lose internet access. I'll email you this weekend.
Innogen: Dreaminginnogen on January 19th, 2017 12:30 pm (UTC)

(sounds like you could use some big, comfy ones)
popkin16: ☂ all the fun things go by that namepopkin16 on January 20th, 2017 05:12 am (UTC)
Thank you so, so much bb *HUGS* My brother did decide to continue helping, but now we have to save up to move somewhere cheaper so he has less to pay. SIGH.